Top 10 Get Your Ex Back Do’s And Don’ts

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There are so many resources out there about how to get your ex back, that it can get quite confusing. This confusion is something that NOBODY needs, especially somebody who is in the already confused state most people are in when they get dumped. Filtering through all the information out there can be tedious and time consuming, which is why I’ve compiled a list of the top get your ex back do’s and don’ts for your convenience. This list of get your ex back do’s and don’ts should send you on your way to get your ex back and help you to avoid some of the major mistakes people make when attempting to get their exes back.

Let’s Start This List Of Get Your Ex Back Do’s And Don’ts With…

THE DON’TS

DON’T panic!

Panicking is probably most people’s first reaction to a break up. Freaking out, getting emotional, becoming irrational, etc, will all work against you getting back your ex successfully. But, being panicked is one of the most natural reactions to a break up. You are losing someone you love dearly, you are faced with a million uncertainties and you don’t know if you will survive without the one you have grown to love holding your hand. However, it is very important that you fight against these feelings and find a way to take control of your thoughts and actions. When your judgment is clouded by your heightened emotional state, you are bound to make a lot of mistakes.

DON’T beg!

Begging is also a mistake we make because our instincts tell us that if we are about to lose something (or someone in this case) we need to try to grab it back and hold on to it. However, people are not inanimate objects that conform to the simpler rules of nature. Nope, we tend to distance ourselves from those who try to “keep” us restricted or limited in some way. In this way, we are all kind of like naughty dogs (and I mean that in the most endearing way possible). Just think about it: if your dog escapes from your yard, unless you have a very well trained dog, that dog is going to give you the run of your life trying to get him back! The more you chase them, the faster they will run. Usually, a better method is to close the gate on them and wait for them to come pawing on the door for you to open it again.

DON’T be desperate!

This is a toughie. You will FEEL very desperate to get your ex back, but you should avoid doing anything that would make you look desperate. Desperation and neediness are universally unattractive, so keeping your desperation a secret from your ex is very important (of course, if you follow the DO’S in the next section you won’t have to lie about not being desperate, because you really won’t be!)

DON’T talk bad about your ex!

You may feel tempted to “unload” on one of your friends, but you should be very careful about this. This can really backfire and your friend may not accept your ex back when you do get back together. Also, if this bad mouthing gets back to your ex, you may have a very hard time reconciling with them.

DON’T give up!

Many friends will tell you just to give up and move on, but the truth is that you probably don’t have to. More than 95% of relationships can be saved with the right information under your belt, so there really is no reason to give up if you feel like this person and you could still have a loving and meaningful relationship.

THE DO’S

DO apologize!

IF, and only IF you have done something wrong. Lots of people get this wrong, so it’s important to learn how to do this right. You don’t need to say you’re sorry for something you didn’t do, but you definitely should apologize if you have done something that hurt or alienated your ex. Sometimes, a good, heartfelt apology is all that you need to get back in your ex’s good graces.

DO improve yourself!

Self-improvement is one of the quickest ways to get your ex interested in you again. If you show them that you have something new to offer (or that you have regained some of that which they originally found attractive about you, but which was lost in the “routine” of the relationship) you have a very good chance of winning them back. Often, if someone breaks it off with their significant other, they still harbor feelings towards them (even if sometimes these feelings are exhibited as anger) and often the slightest incentive can convince them to come back to you.

DO take some time away!

You may want to constantly call your ex and “remind” them that you love them, want them back, etc. However, it is much better to give them (and yourself) some time to be alone. This time apart will allow you to get your head on straight and will give your ex time to realize you are gone so that they will miss you. This is commonly referred to as a “No Contact” period, and you can find out more about it in the ebook, “The Magic of Making Up” by T.W. Jackson.

DO “move on”!

This doesn’t mean you have to abandon the idea of getting your ex back, this just means that you need to stop lying to yourself and telling yourself that you “Won’t live!!” without your ex. This kind of thinking is not going to help you get your ex back. If you want to get your ex back, you need to think independently. You need to “move on” from them, in the sense that you can live, and even thrive, without them. This independent attitude can be just what your ex needs to realize your real value.

DO remain friendly!

A big mistake most people make is being nasty to their ex. This doesn’t do anything for you as far as getting your ex back. You can keep the high ground by continuing to be kind and courteous, even if your ex is being mean to you. Even if you don’t end up getting back together, you will feel much better about yourself and the situation if you do your best to keep your cool and restrain any emotional outbursts or bad words.

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