The Ultimate 3 Step Plan To Get Your Ex Back: STEP 1
Getting back with an ex isn’t as impossible as most people will tell you it is. Many people feel that if someone has broken up with you, it is no use trying to get back together with them, as it will just lead to the same types of problems and that person might end up breaking your heart AGAIN! However, while this is true in some rare cases, in reality, over 95% of break ups can be reversed, and not only can you reverse the break up and get your ex back, you can actually save the relationship and make it better than it was before. But first of all, you need to know what you are doing.
To this end, I present to you:
THE 3 STEP PLAN
Following these three steps will give you the best chances of winning back your ex and mending your broken relationship. If you are ready to fight for love, and aren’t about to give up trying to get your ex back just because things seem difficult, then please continue reading.
STEP 1 – Getting To The Bottom Of Things
Maybe you think you know exactly what went wrong in your relationship, or maybe you thought everything was going just fine until you heard those four dreaded words: WE NEED TO TALK. Whatever the case, understanding what went wrong in the relationship is crucial if you want to get your ex back, and more importantly, make the relationship last once you have them back!
Many times, the reasons that your ex broke up with you aren’t that clear. Often you will get some ambiguous reason like “Things just weren’t working anymore”, “I need some space” or, everyone’s favorite, “It’s not you; it’s me”. These lame excuses can leave you scratching your head, and even if the reason they left is as simple as – they aren’t ready for kids and they heard you mentioning, in passing, that you really like hanging out with your kid nephew – these kinds of excuses could have you imagining all sorts of terrible things about yourself. This is why it is important to examine the real reasons why people leave relationships (trust me… it’s probably not because you like the Blue Man Group… or at least not entirely.)
If your ex was more vocal when they left, then they may have given you quite a lengthy list of reasons why they were leaving you. This can hurt a lot, but if your ex was upset when they said those things, then it is likely that they don’t mean half of what they said, and the things they did mean shouldn’t have come across so strongly. Also, many of the reasons he or she may have left you probably all fit under the same category and have the same underlying issue (which we shall discuss shortly).
So Why Do People Throw In The Towel?
Men and women have different needs when it comes to relationships. It’s very important to understand this if you want to get your ex back. Unfortunately, males and females fail to realize this, and they only show their brand of love to the other person, without thinking that maybe that isn’t what they need exactly.
If a person feels that their needs are not being met in a relationship, it is usually only a matter of time before they will leave the relationship and look for one that will fulfill their needs. So, what are these needs?
MEN NEED ADMIRATION
Men need to feel like heroes. Guys are not exempt from fairytales. While most women want to be princesses that are cherished and loved, men want to fulfill their roles and be the white knights, who ride in to save the day and win the love and admiration of their lady loves.
Early in a relationship, women are very good at making men feel admired. They show interest when he talks about his goals and even his favorite sports team, they dress nicely when they are around him, because this makes him feel special and keeps him interested in pursuing her (never underestimate the importance of the pursuit!). But, later in the relationship, women tend to let these things slide. Familiarity sets in, and they don’t put in the same amount of effort as they used to.
When this happens, the man feels un-admired and disrespected. If this continues, he will soon leave his lady love to find a princess who will admire and respect him. It doesn’t matter if the new princess is better looking than you or not; believe it or not, the emotional side of the relationship ALWAYS trumps the physical side (although looking your best doesn’t hurt!) and this is true even for guys who are known to think with their “little heads”. In the long term, only an emotionally (or mentally) fulfilling relationship will stand the test of time.
WOMEN NEED APPRECIATION
There is nothing women crave more than being appreciated for who they are and what they do. They need to be needed! Men usually show this appreciation very well early on in a relationship. They compliment their woman, and tell her how beautiful she looks and how her eyes sparkle when she smiles. But, soon (just like the ladies) familiarity sets in, and they don’t even notice when she is making a special effort to look good for him anymore. This can be very, very discouraging for a woman and soon she will start putting less effort into looking good because she feel her hard work goes unnoticed.
Soon enough though, it does get noticed and the guy starts wondering why she walks around in sweats all day and doesn’t wear those cute little dresses that she used to. If he continues to belittle her or her efforts to please him, then basically the first man who shows the slightest bit of appreciation and care for her as a woman can easily steal her away. And if this doesn’t happen, she will probably leave the relationship to go out and LOOK for that man (which isn’t YOU anymore).
Failing to meet these basic needs can doom a relationship. The good news is, if you see that you are guilty of any of these things, you can easily fix the situation and get your ex back!