The Ultimate 3 Step Plan To Get Your Ex Back: STEP 2

At this point you may be thinking something along the lines of “That’s terrible! I didn’t even realize I was doing anything wrong! Now I feel awful!” and this could get you feeling very gloomy indeed. And, even if you are completely guiltless in the break up, you will probably still feel terrible! Trust me, I know these things… while I wasn’t completely without fault when my relationship failed, HE was definitely in the wrong and it still hurt like hell (maybe even more because there was nothing I thought I could “fix”)

So, if you feel like you’re sinking in the deepest sea and you can’t seem to get that achy feeling out of your gut, don’t feel too bad, because you are not alone. Countless people have gone through the same (myself included) and we’ve made it out alive in the end. If you feel like this, the good news is that you don’t have to linger in this dark place and continue struggling to keep your head above the water because it’s time for…

STEP 2 – Getting Your Head On Straight

This is probably THE most crucial step to if you want to get your ex back. You can’t attempt winning back your ex if you’re an emotional (and usually physical) mess! You need to show your ex that you are worth their attention and love. Remember in the early days of your relationship where there was a lot of flirting, peacocking and playing hard to get? Well, trying to restart a relationship with an ex is like when someone presses reset on a game – you have to start from the beginning again!

Just please, PLEASE remain calm!

However, one advantage of this is that, just like in a game, you probably already know all the levels. It may take you a while to readjust since you haven’t played the game in a while, but the fact is that you are almost cheating because you already know all the moves!

However, if you are going to make use of “the moves” effectively, you are going to have to enter the game in the right frame of mind. You can’t play your best if you have something in your eye, and you’re distracted because you know you should be studying for your exam. Okay… that’s probably a bad analogy, since that always made me play harder… but you get my point right?!

If you want to get your ex back, you are first going to have to focus on YOU!

Fighting Your Natural Instincts

One of the first things that you will need to focus on is retraining your mind and reversing many of your natural reactions. Probably the first thing you will do when you hear that your significant other is breaking up with you is to go into a panic mode. This is natural, as getting dumped literally dumps you into the realm of the unknown. You don’t know how you will survive without them, and if you were in a long term relationship, the break up could really affect your life as you know it.

However, it is important to fight this reaction, or at least not let it take control of you. When you are panicking, you are not going to make the right decisions and you are almost bound to make mistakes, some of which could cost you your chances of getting back with your ex. So, it is very important not to make any moves until you have calmed yourself and have worked out your emotional issues.

Do whatever you can do to stay grounded

Unfortunately, this is always easier said than done. Even if you feel you have gained control of your emotions, you may feel the panic creeping back up on you at the most inopportune moments (like when you are about to casually say hi to your ex at the grocery store). This panic can make you say something like “Desiree, I can’t live without you! Please come back, baby! I swear I’ll make things better” when what you were really planning on saying was, “Heeeey… Long time, no see, Dez! How are things going?” and then after a few moments of cool, yet highly charged, casual conversation, you walk off… like a boss!

Yeah, so as you can see, getting your head on straight is very important if you want to get your ex back and avoid getting a restraining order placed on you. So how can you do this? There are two extremely effective methods for controlling your panic and keeping a level head so that you can concentrate on getting your ex back. The first one is the “Fast Forward Technique” which is used to “speed up” the emotional healing process. This very effective method can be found in the ebook called the Magic of Making Up.

Another method you can use is the “Calm Mind Technique”. This is a trick you can use whenever you feel the uncertainty and uneasiness welling up. This method not only helps you to get on an even keel so that you can steer towards that “happy place” you need to be in to get your ex back, it is also what I would call an “emotional painkiller” as it helps you to deal with the inner pain of a break up like nothing else can. Here is a video of T.W. Jackson (or T Dub, as he’s known) who wrote the Magic of Making Up, explaining the “Calm Mind Technique”. Learning this technique can put you on the fast track to getting your head figured out so that you can get your ex back quickly.

You can find more great advice and watch the rest of T Dub’s video tutorials >>HERE<<

Once you understand how to keep your reactions in check and have tamed your unruly (and usually unreasonable!) emotions, you are ready to execute “The Plan” to get your ex back!

Proceed to STEP 3 for “The Plan”