How Can I Save My Marriage From Falling Apart?
What To Do When Love Goes Cold…
It happens to the best of us; we get so into the “routine” of marriage that we end up taking our relationship with our wife or husband for granted. Often we don’t even realize that there is a problem until it is REALLY a problem and a divorce or separation seems imminent. I, like many others, have found myself in this situation before. I didn’t even really realize how bad things were until my husband told me he needed some “time apart”. The realization that my marriage wasn’t as peachy as I had thought it was sent me reeling, and wondering how can I save my marriage from what looked to be “The End”.
Getting Some “Guidance”
When I heard those words “time apart”, I was inwardly panicking, but since I’m horrendously non-confrontational I didn’t say anything… I just watched him leave. This was the single saddest moment that I have ever experienced in my entire life. I didn’t know what to do. “How can I save my marriage if I don’t even know what went wrong?!” I wondered. Obviously, I needed help!
Fortunately, I have this amazing thing called “The Internet” which helps me find answers to all life’s questions. Unfortunately, there is a lot of bad mixed in with the good, and I had a pretty hard time finding advice from REAL people instead of Know-it-all psychoanalysts. But, if at first I don’t succeed, I will try and try again. This eventually led me to the indelible Mr. T Dub Jackson.
Now, I am kind of a geeky woman (there! I said it!) and one of my favorite movies of all time is The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy (based on a radio comedy by Douglas Adams). In this movie, an earthling named Arthur Dent roams the galaxy, always with the help of the stunningly accurate and comic advice from the Hitchhiker’s Guidebook. I always thought that it would be amazing to have a “Hitchhiker’s Guide to Life” which was that helpful and easy to understand.
Well, while I haven’t found the answer to life itself, I think I’ve found my “Hitchhiker’s Guide To Save A Failing Marriage” in T.W. (T Dub) Jackson’s book, The Magic of Making Up. This book definitely answered so many of my questions, and best of all, it even had that vital piece of advice that EVERYONE needs in this situation: DON’T PANIC!
T Dub’s advice is so down to earth and the thing that I love most about his style of advice is that he talks TO you and not AT you. He’s just a regular guy who has loads of experience (He’s helped over 50,000 people in 77 countries!) and he has a lot of “controversial” but highly effective techniques that those with broken heart’s can use to win back their exes. Here’s a super effective technique that you can use to calm yourself so that you can begin taking the necessary steps to get your ex back. It’s called T.W. Jackson’s “Calm Mind Technique” and I’ve used it many times to help myself get rid of those initial panicky feelings I get when I’m upset or even just nervous about somthing.
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Again, DON’T PANIC is the theme here. You can definitely find ways to save a failing marriage, but you have to keep your head on straight. This took a little effort on my part, as I suffered from terrible panic attacks and was beside myself wondering what would happen to me and how our daughter would take our getting separated. I was thinking of all the negative what-ifs I possibly could, and it wasn’t helping at all.
When you are in this situation, the most important thing you can do is make an informed plan. Don’t freak out and start getting emotional and don’t clam up and shutdown (like I originally did). You need to take action! But you need to plan your actions wisely. This is where the Magic of Making Up comes in. It will give you the basic principles of what needs to happen to get your husband or wife back, and it will also give you specific techniques that you can use that are based on these principles.
So, the happy ending to this story is that I was able to reverse the sad trends that were causing the breakdown of our marriage. My husband came home and we started doing the things that we should have been doing all along; appreciating each other, filling each other’s needs and keeping things fresh and exiting regardless of how busy we were. This experience has helped me to really enjoy every moment of my marriage and even weather the ups and downs we experience much more gracefully. I don’t take anything for granted now. So, if you’re wondering “How can I save my marriage?” this book is a great place to start. I hope it helps you as much as it has helped me. I wish you the best of luck, and until next time… So long! And thanks for all the fish!