3 “Hot Tips” On How To Rekindle A Relationship

The feelings we feel when we are “in love” can be fleeting which is why many couples’ relationships end up spiraling downward when the initial “buzz” has worn off. Even couples that have been together for many years can separate because one of the partners feels that there is just no more “spark” in the relationship. Fortunately this “blah” state of being can be reversed; you just need to know how to rekindle a relationship that is faltering or even ended.

How To Rekindle A Relationship That Is On The Verge of Ending

What do you do if your partner seems to be losing interest in you? It could be a phase that they are going through and it could pass whenever what is causing the disinterest is resolved. But, what if it is more serious than this? What if there are real problems with the relationship that are pushing your girlfriend or boyfriend, or spouse away from you?

Well, the way I see it, you have three choices:

1.    You could go quiet and sullen-like (this, I’ve been told, is MY most common coping method) and basically just sit around waiting for the inevitable breakup to happen.

2.    You could “handle” the situation on your own. This usually entails a lot of yelling, and/or desperate gestures of affection. Either way, it is not usually that effective.

3.    OR you could develop an informed plan on how to rekindle a relationship after taking the advice of my all-time favorite relationship guru, T.W. “T Dub” Jackson!

T Dub’s book, The Magic of Making Up, has helped me in so many ways. After numerous (don’t want to get into details here) breakups and heartbreaks, after reading this book, I finally figured out what I was doing wrong after reading this book. What I love about it, is that the advice works in any situation; whether you are trying to get your ex wife to get back together with you, trying to keep your husband from leaving you, or just trying to find out how to rekindle a relationship that seems to be taking a downturn. I’ll share some of the tips from this amazing book that have helped me the most in my relationship.

Tip One – Breaking the Monotony of Monogamy

We are creatures of habit. This is why we end up doing things the same way, every day. Just think about how you shower – you probably wash your body parts in the same order every single time, but don’t even realize it. Why do you do this? – Because it simplifies the process. You don’t really think “Now I’m washing my chest and next I’ll wash my armpits”. Because you don’t have to think about it, you can breeze through your showers pretty quickly (unless you’re my daughter… then you would take at least 3 hours… she hasn’t got the routine down yet, I guess).

Unfortunately, because it is a routine, it is also not special. It’s easier, sure! But, you don’t have the same appreciation for the process as you would if it was something new that you were doing.

Most of us get like this in our relationships, as well. It’s something that T Dub calls “The routine of relationships” in the Magic of Making Up. We go through the “routine” without ever thinking that maybe it’s not satisfying our emotional and even intellectual needs anymore. This leads to dull, humdrum relationships that you are just “in” because “in” is where you’ve always been.

This isn’t the way things have to be! You can turn this situation around right quick, by really thinking about how to keep things fresh and spontaneous. Force yourself out of the routine, and think about what it is your partner needs in the relationship and whether or not you are meeting these needs (if you are in the “routine” chances are you’re not!)

Tip Two – Relive the Past a Little

NO! Not “bring up” the past (that’s a whole other chapter of “don’ts”). While you should try to steer clear of bringing up any painful memories and strive your best to “live in the moment”, once in a while it’s good to take a stroll down memory lane.

Think about what attracted you to your partner in the first place, and why he or she was attracted to you. Think of the fun, or even funny, experiences you had when you first started dating. This can help you to gain some perspective on your current situation, and see more clearly what has changed since those good ol’ days.

Often, people change without even knowing it. They feel like they are the same old Bob, or Cindy, or whatever, but they have actually changed drastically since they have been in the relationship. These could be physical changes, or they could be inner changes. Either way, if you see that your changes haven’t really been too great, don’t worry, because, guess what?

You can always CHANGE!

If you see you have let yourself go a bit, then you can easily start exercising and eating right and taking better care of your health and appearance. This is usually were you should start, because once you change physically, the inner changes will follow. You will feel more confident and this will carry over to your other actions and make you happier and more pleasant to be around.

Tip Three – Make Yourself Attractive To Your Partner

This may fit under the “relive the past” heading, since it is sort of linked to taking better care of yourself etc. However, I think it’s worth going over a bit more, since it is so important.

Remember that when you are trying to figure out how to rekindle a relationship, what you are basically trying to do is to get back that “spark” you originally had when you started being together. You can do this by treating the situation much in the same way as you did when you originally started dating.

You need to take good care of yourself, look good for your partner at all times if possible, and do those flirty little things that you used to do. Hit on your woman (or man!) and let them know that you still find them attractive and desirable. The saying holds true –

NOTHING ATTRACTS LIKE ATTRACTION!

So, if you can show your partner that you are still into them, they will likely show this interest in you, as well. Usually, when a relationship collapses, it is not because the partners don’t love each other (necessarily) it is more often because they failed to show each other this love consistently and effectively enough. EFFECTIVELY is the key word here, and you will need to learn how to meet your partners needs PROPERLY if you want to find out how to rekindle a relationship, which is why reading T Dub’s book is a MUST, in my humble opinion.

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If you follow the three simple tips in this article you will be well on your way to formulating a good plan about how to get the spark back into your relationship.