Lazy Girl Cheat Sheet: What Is The Easiest Way To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?

There are many different strategies that are meant to help girls get their ex boyfriends back. Unfortunately, many of these are too complex for laid back gals like me. I am NOT going to carefully fold a million little origami swans and scatter them in front of my ex’s apartment (anonymously of course) to (subtly) remind him of how we used to feed the swans at the park. No, if you’re like me, you’re wondering what is the easiest way to get your ex boyfriend back.

Of course, if you’ve tried the “anonymous origami litter” technique and it has worked, well then, I tip my hat to you. A+ for effort! However, that’s definitely not the easiest way to get your ex boyfriend back, and I’m also not sure it’s the best.

So… What is the Easiest Way to Get your Ex Boyfriend Back?

Well, as I’ve discovered, there is no easy way to win your ex boyfriend back, but there are things you can do to make winning him back easiER. Understanding the elements that go into regaining the love of someone who has left you, and breaking the steps down into small “bite-sized” chunks, will make the whole process that much simpler.

Yes, I said “process”. There is no one magic thing you can do to get him back. But there is a tried and proven magic strategy that has helped thousands of women get back their men WITHOUT any silly gimmicks* or desperate rituals. This plan is laid out best in the book The Magic of Making Up, which was written by the Grand Wizard of Relationships, himself, T.W. Jackson (us Muggles can call him “T. Dub”). His simple, straight-forward plan has worked for me and countless other women and men and I’ll list my favorite points of the plan here.

The Break Down of How to Reverse a Break Up

Here are the three things I found helped me the most.

-  Understanding Why It Ended

When guys break up with girls, their excuses can be pretty lame. They often don’t even know why they are calling it off; they just “feel” things aren’t the same as before. This leaves us women wondering what the heck happened. Finding out what really causes men to leave was a real revelation to me. My initial suspicion would be, because he found someone who was better looking.

However, although this conclusion seems natural (mainly because most women are insecure about their looks) usually it is the wrong conclusion.

Men leave the relationship when they feel they are not appreciated. They may give other excuses, but feeling under-appreciated is the main reason men decide to break up with their girlfriends.

You may say, “Well, that’s not why! He broke up with me because I cheated on him, and he said he couldn’t trust me!” However, the real reason was probably that your cheating on him made him feel useless and unappreciated. If you take a closer look at any excuse he gave, you will realize that it all basically boils down to him feeling unappreciated.

As soon as you realize this, you can better understand what he feels like so that you can do your best to fix the problem. It will also help you to change your mindset that you aren’t “good enough”. This kind of thinking is pretty pointless and it has no place in the plan to get your ex back.

-  Dealing With Your Emotions

Obviously, if you have just gotten dumped, you are going to be emotional. However, being an emotional mess is not how to get your ex back.

You will feel like crap, but you need to drag yourself out of that dark place so that you can focus on getting your ex back. You need to get past the temptation to do all the cliché breakup things like staying in bed, watching tv, eating, and crying all day. These things are not going to help you get back together with your ex.

You need to deal with the feelings of loss and despair so that you can work on what you need to do to get your ex back. This can take some time, but you can speed up the healing process by using the Fast Forward technique that T. Dub presents in his book.

You need to conquer your emotional state, because once you do you will be able to become the kind of woman that would attract your ex boyfriend: the amazing, confident, caring person that you already are.

-  Make Some Changes

Maybe your ex doesn’t remember that you are an amazing, confident, caring person, because, after a while, we tend to see more of the negative traits of the person we are with. You can change this pattern of thinking by improving your physical appearance.

If you are wondering what is the easiest way to get your ex boyfriend back, here it is!

Although you don’t need to look like a super model to get your ex back, men will take notice if you have been taking better care of yourself. If you exercise and take good care of your skin and hair, and put more effort into the way you look, your ex will definitely notice.

But, believe it or not, this is not all about the looks. T Dub focuses so much attention to improving your physical appearance in The Magic of Making Up because it is a deep psychological principal you are playing on here. You can “alert” your ex that you are making changes (maybe you are trying to keep your temper in check, or working on being less needy) by changing up your outward appearance.

Here is a video I found was very helpful, as T Dub talks about what will attract your ex back to you and why it is important to focus on you at this time you are apart.

You can find the next video, as well as many other helpful resources >>HERE<<

A simple change, like a different hair cut, or getting in better shape will remind your ex that there is more to you than what he thought. He will realize that you can be just as mysterious and interesting as when he first met you. He may associate the way you normally look with any negative experiences or feelings he had when you were with him, so changing your look can break those associations. Simple!

These are the three things that I find have helped me the most. There are many other great strategies and tips that can help you find what is the easiest way to get your ex boyfriend back in your situation. But, for now, I hope these simple steps will move you in the right direction, so that you can be happily reunited with the one you love.